tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3634884728412055261.post755902566403781524..comments2023-09-16T09:36:55.193-04:00Comments on Fallopian Groove (is a terrible name for a blog): attitude adjustmentSarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17685641936657833904noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3634884728412055261.post-56236583901369652572022-12-18T22:40:44.464-05:002022-12-18T22:40:44.464-05:00真愛旅舍網站破解
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Your feelings ...Please don't feel like a chump! Your feelings are totally yours and they're valid. I really just wanted to say that I understand the complexity of feelings you're processing right now and to hopefully(!) offer some words of encouragement as you progress on this doubtless scary-as-hell road. There will be moments of beauty and elation too, no matter what. <br />I really really hope I'm soon joining you on that bandwagon too! Sadiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14325203869605294768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3634884728412055261.post-51384269033301089872013-04-19T18:45:49.203-04:002013-04-19T18:45:49.203-04:00Sadie, this beautiful post made me tear up, and no...Sadie, this beautiful post made me tear up, and not only because I feel especially like a chump to be griping given that I am, in fact, apparently, pregnant. But your words about loving your son, without hesitation and unselfconsciously, and your strength after such a devastating loss, leave me nearly speechless. Thank you and I hope that you're soon to join me on this pregnancy bandwagon.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17685641936657833904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3634884728412055261.post-30536746888166445892013-04-19T13:18:18.182-04:002013-04-19T13:18:18.182-04:00I totally totally totally get (in a terrified, ter...I totally totally totally get (in a terrified, terrifying way), the urge to distance yourself from what is actually happening right now. I'm not always sure that I can cognitively relate 'pregnant' with 'baby' any more at all. And I am a firm believer that humour, dark or otherwise, can carry us through a lot of crap. <br />But.<br />The fact is, caring now wouldn't make bad news any easier to bear, and neither will it conjur an ill fate on this pregnancy, this little spark of life. While I hope and assume that everything will continue to be boringly, healthily routine for you from here until you're holding that life in your arms, I can say this: My first pregnancy was also my longest, but as you know, it didn't end well. Still, the moments of full-on mom mode, when (far too early!) I sang to my son, gave him silly nicknames, loved him fiercely and unselfconsciously, are memories I wouldn't trade for anything. They are some of my proudest possessions in fact. <br />I'm with C; I say love fiercely and unselfconsciously, however that looks for you. Easier said than done, I know friend. But I can only hope I'll be able to manage that when I finally get where you are again. In the meantime, you can vent all your darkest humour and worst fears here, and I promise we'll understand and share all of it, and keep encouraging you to think otherwise too. <br />Sadiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14325203869605294768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3634884728412055261.post-1722421289480674072013-04-19T13:10:26.347-04:002013-04-19T13:10:26.347-04:00I cope with sarcastic humor as well. It's mor...I cope with sarcastic humor as well. It's more comfortable that being a downer in general. I can attest to how you feel, though I am a step behind you. After a loss, we lose a little bit of our ability to go at this with blind hope. We are cautiously optimistic. We hope for the best and prepare for the worst. It makes sense to me. I think we can have hope that this is going to turn out differently on the one hand and acceptance that this could end the same as before. Let the good feelings in when you can and I for one appreciate your humor.AuntMimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14422483597644189383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3634884728412055261.post-14048700591235734552013-04-19T09:41:11.062-04:002013-04-19T09:41:11.062-04:00thanks so much, you're right. trying to slowly...thanks so much, you're right. trying to slowly but surely allow the positive feelings in, even briefly, makes a lot of sense. but don't worry, i'll keep the snark coming strong on the blog. I hope you get here one day, too - sending many positive thoughts.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17685641936657833904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3634884728412055261.post-55464709426623192062013-04-19T09:39:13.396-04:002013-04-19T09:39:13.396-04:00thanks, amanda - totally trying to keep a nice bal...thanks, amanda - totally trying to keep a nice balance of self-deprecation, humor and celebration. and on a related note, your ability to bounce back after this recent loss is mind boggling and i'm sending all kinds of positive vibes for the next round and the broccoli diet in between now and then :)Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17685641936657833904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3634884728412055261.post-87184366802656489152013-04-19T09:35:41.170-04:002013-04-19T09:35:41.170-04:00thank you for this - I can't imagine this bein...thank you for this - I can't imagine this being more perfectly put. you have more perspective on this than I do and the truth is, you're right, even if it's hard for me to remember sometimes. thank you.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17685641936657833904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3634884728412055261.post-37545331656453373592013-04-19T09:33:17.559-04:002013-04-19T09:33:17.559-04:00Your positive attitude through all the ups and dow...Your positive attitude through all the ups and downs - including the most recent down - is truly amazing. And I am so hoping that you guys will be able to enjoy a hard-earned pregnancy in the very near future.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17685641936657833904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3634884728412055261.post-1485154633041669372013-04-19T00:15:58.939-04:002013-04-19T00:15:58.939-04:00I sympathize with both you and your husband :-) It...I sympathize with both you and your husband :-) It sounds like the sarcasm and self-deprecation and dark humour have served you well in helping you navigate the super-weird journey of TTC with an IF diagnosis (and they make your writing very funny to read.) Being able to laugh at, mock, or criticize something is a way to create distance from the experience, and it's often very necessary to create emotional distance from the tragic absurdities of IF. But on the other hand sometimes life requires that we embrace it without holding back - and that's a very beautiful thing too. It sure can be hard after repeated disappointment though. Maybe you can work on having just one conversation a day or something about the pregnancy where you don't allow any negative thoughts or comments in - as a sort of experiment. But always keeping the blog as an outlet for everything else. I don't know....never been in your position...though I'd like to one day...so just speculating.torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3634884728412055261.post-79801960683656241212013-04-18T21:38:09.172-04:002013-04-18T21:38:09.172-04:00It's so tempting to think that being pessimist...It's so tempting to think that being pessimistic in any way would soften a horrible blow, but it won't. And it's so tempting to be afraid that being positive or optimistic will incite negative events. But it won't. It's easy to say but hard to do, but there is nothing that you can do now to change what is happening or what will happen, so allow yourself to enjoy. I promise it won't cause anything bad to happen.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3634884728412055261.post-56432591614054144012013-04-18T21:34:50.767-04:002013-04-18T21:34:50.767-04:00Well, clearly, self-deprecation and sarcasm are co...Well, clearly, self-deprecation and sarcasm are coping mechanisms and damn it, we need those. I actually wish I had been a little less "tra la la, everything is perfect" when I got my BFP so that the subsequent loss could be a bit less... devastating. But still. It's so different for the men, isn't it? I guess what I'm trying to say is that dark humor and jokes is just part of who you are, so roll with it. But also, perhaps in a contradictory way, let yourself celebrate and brainstorm those baby names. No matter what happens, you'll get to look back on this time with the fondest of memories. We've all paid our dues and have most certainly earned the right navel gaze whenever we damn well please.Deedahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02386061097583007160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3634884728412055261.post-37847234025885441302013-04-18T21:25:42.421-04:002013-04-18T21:25:42.421-04:00I agree with C. What you do now won't make a d...I agree with C. What you do now won't make a difference to how devastated you would feel IF something were to go wrong... but I really have a good feeling about this for you. Allow yourself (and C) to soak up every minute of this hard-earned pregnancy. I know I will if/when I ever get there. Gypsy Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13026496787029080243noreply@blogger.com