Sunday, July 14, 2013

pants-less wonder, 17 weeks, 2 days

Sometimes it’s the moments you least expect that let you know that yes, you really are, pregnant.

It’s not that I wake up at least 2-3 times a night to pee; it’s not that I now lean forward while peeing, with my torso roughly parallel to the tile floor, tilting my uterus to extract every last drop and per the musical medical wizardry of my doctor husband, sing the alphabet before I get up off the toilet JUST TO MAKE SURE THERE’S NO MORE PEE[1]; it’s not that my gums bled for a week and a half every time I lightly brushed my ever-loving-extra-sensitive-so-much-blood-rushing-to-every-vessel! teeth; it’s not that I could eat pad thai noodles or vegetarian sushi all day every day and, still, have only a mild and fleeting interest in chocolate; it’s not that my boobs are suddenly like ohhai!-we’re-no-longer-just-on-the-cusp-of-a-measly-b-cup-please-and-thank-you; it’s not that I’m in full on, beyond cliché, nauseatingly domestic nesting mode, transparently ogling the strollers of the neighborhood moms and practically giddy over a mint condition “arm’s reach co-sleeper” we scored for forty bucks at a yard sale; it’s not that I cried snotty, messy, sobs over my granola just one minute in to the latest StoryCorps and scrambled to turn off the radio while C, alternately flabbergasted and amused, looked on, mouth agape; it’s not that I returned to pre-natal yoga[2], where a series of wall-sits were compared to “each minute of a contraction!” or that during these wall sits our instructor, who clutches her vagina when demonstrating something involving the pelvic floor, allowed us to scream out in pain, as though in labor, and the woman two down from me took her word for it and belted out, in between some kind of part orgasm/part shriek, kinky mother fucker son of a bitch!; it’s not that I got pregnancy-shingles[3] and have now been blessed with a new mystery what’s-the-word-I’m-looking-for?-oh-right-SEXY rash that seems to be consuming my left boob[4]; it’s not that I heard the beating heart, with my own two ears, or saw a giant fetus head, with my own two eyes; and it's certainly not that I'm complaining about any of this because, hello-this-was-the-goal.

No. It’s not any of these things.

There is just one thing that strikes me as the real moment when I felt like, aww shucks, I really am pregnant. It was earlier this week, when it suddenly came over me that I am carrying a human fetus truly, deeply, sincerely and genuinely: COMPLETELY UNINTERESTED IN WEARING PANTS.

Oh sure, they all still kinda, sorta fit (ish). The bump is definitely, happening, emerging, present. But also intermittently concealable depending on the time of day and the amount of pad thai I’ve consumed in the last 24 hours. And sure, there’s one pair of stretchy black umm-could-these-possibly-pass-as-everyday-pants-in-a-professional-environment? J.Crew pajama pants that I could live in. But otherwise, I am just, well, 100% not interested. In fact, it’s more than disinterest – it’s an all consuming revulsion. And I’d like to say that it’s no big deal. That it’s summer. That I’ll just wear adorable, well fitting, pregnancy chic sundresses for the next five months. But we need to be honest with ourselves. We all know what’s coming: MUUMUU![5]

[1] There’s always more. THERE IS ALWAYS MORE EFFING URINE.
[2] Which I secretly kind of love.
[3] Yeah. That’s definitely hyphenated.
[4] I know, I know, you’re on the edge of your seats. More soon.
[5] Vast Waistband Salesman: “Many of our clients find pants confining, so we offer a range of alternatives for the ample gentleman: ponchos, muumuus, capes, jumpsuits, unisheets, muslin body rolls, academic and judicial robes.” 

Homer Simpson: “I don’t want to look like a weirdo.  I’ll just go with a muumuu.”


  1. hahaha I love the way you write!! I love a big pregnant belly in a maxi dress :)

  2. Bahaha. At about 15 weeks I purchased maternity jeans (from Jeans West Australia/NZ) and they are THE MOST COMFORTABLE PANTS IN THE WORLD. I think I will want to wear them forever.

    Your yoga class sounds pretty "interesting"!

  3. Jump off the ledge!! Into maternity-clothes-land. In response to your question on my blog, I've gotten a few good pairs of go-to black work pants from Motherhood Maternity. I really like these ( for skinny-ish pants.

    I also have been doing a lot of maxi dresses (yes, really) or just regular maternity dresses with cute little blazers over them to be more work-friendly.

    Finally, for tops, I like the Jessica Simpson (again, yes really) and Heidi Klum shirts from Motherhood Maternity again.

  4. After the first eight weeks when I was pregnant with S (and started to show reeeally early), it was my black stretch yoga pants all day every day. (More than one pair, obviously.)

    But speaking of yoga, your prenatal class sounds terrifying and bizarre.

  5. Yay, the arm's reach cosleeper is the BEST. THE BEST. Down with pants. Have you seen the latest 'conversations with my 2 year old' video? 'Nobody WANTS to wear pants. It's just the way the world works.'
    I wore maternity jeans (not the ones for 3rd tri but the ones for 1st tri) for like a year after S was born. Don't tell anyone. SO FREAKING COMFORTABLE.

  6. So does this mean that the belly band is never going to get any use? You were supposed to give feed back on the prototype!! Now how am I going to know if it is cute or not? On the upside, it could double as a scarf...

    1. Totally planning to rock the rad-reversible-homemade belly band ASAP. And promise to give you my detailed report, complete with photo ;)

  7. Girl, I found myself at IKEA the other day wearing NO bra, NO underwear and pants that were completely unzipped. I looked like a hobo... the kind who not-so-secretly want their pants to fall down so they can expose their privates to everyone.

    Mistakes were made.

    1. Umm, this is amazing. I really have no words except to say - how can I be more like you? This is totally my style.
      (And also, you can't leave me hanging - what were the mistakes, pray tell!)